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 The Top Ten Secrets Highly Successful People Know That
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#4: Be the Master of Your Own Destiny
I wanted to start the year off with
this very important message. This year, will
you make the choice to be the creator of your own destiny?
You are creating your destiny in every moment by the
choices you are making now. Read on for three important
practices that every master embraces.
Reflection
(“All man’s miseries derive
from not being able to sit quietly in a room alone.” Blaise
Pascal)
In order to be the creator of your destiny, one must
consciously choose what they want and who they will be as
they do what they do. The only way to do this is to
make reflection a part of your routine. Successful
people take time to determine where they are going,
what is working and not working, and if their priorities
are in order on a regular basis. Too many of us live
like a jellyfish being pushed around by the waves of
life. As for me, I use a journal to keep myself focused
on my goals, dreams, fears, inner obstacles, and accomplishments.
Journaling clears the clutter from one’s mind
just as emptying a trash can clears your home of garbage.
Examples of questions to reflect on for the New Year
include:
- What is your vision for 2006? If the best things
in life were to happen to you, what would they be?
- By what means will you grow, deepen and renew those
relationships most important to you??
- Who do you want to be this year as you do what
you do? (patient, present, loving, accepting)
- What do you need to incorporate into your life
this year that will bring you greater enjoyment,
energy, health, and connection? What/Who do you need
to let go of?
FACE EVERYTHING!
(The measure of
success is not whether you have a tough problem
to deal with, but whether it’s the same problem you had last year.” John
Foster Dulles)
What obstacles stand in the
way of you being truly happy in every aspect of your
life? Are you experiencing the same financial problems,
marital intimacy issues, parent child conflicts,
communication difficulties, addictions to food, alcohol,
shopping or career stagnation that
have been laying in your life year after year? Get
your head out of the sand. These issues will not disappear
until you deal with them! Go seek counseling, get a
coach, consult a friend, or go deep within and ask
yourself. Ask a trusted friend or partner what
they see about you that needs adjustment. Then, rather
than getting defensive, LISTEN openly to what is said.
As long as these issues control you; you are not the
master. What is possible for you once these obstacles
are cleared? How will your life be better? What is
on the other side of these situations for you?
BECOME!
(“There are no limitations to
the self except those that you believe in.” Seth)
What do you want most in
this world for yourself? Envision it. Imagine it.
Feel what it would be like to have it. Then live,
breathe and become the person in your vision. Act
as if your dream has already come true. THIS is
what brings dreams into your reality! Go
for it! There is nothing stopping you but your own
beliefs about yourself!
Designs To Grow offers Personal
Development Programs that will add value to your
self, your team and your organization. For more information,
contact
Lynn at 215-504-9188 or at lynn@designstogrow.com.
For more information on Designs To Grow, go to www.designstogrow.com.
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Monthly
Challenge
Take Action: Begin this
year by strengthening your current foundation. Acknowledge your
2005 accomplishments and learnings. Then, envision or write what
you want for 2006, personally, and professionally. Most importantly,
who do you need to become in order to have these things? Reflect
on your direction on a regular basis.
Question: What obstacle or theme has shown up in your
life over and over again which it is now time to address? (Difficult
relationships, power struggles, communication blockages, standing
up for yourself, etc)
Strengthen Your Team: Have
each team member ask another team member, “As an outside
observer, what do you notice about the way I communicate that would
benefit me to improve upon?"
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Ask
the Coach:
I struggle with my teenager. We cannot communicate. I do not understand
her nor does she understand me. I’d like a better relationship
with her. Any suggestions? CK
This can be a tough period in time, but it does not have to be.
Answer this question very honestly. Are you REALLY trying to understand
her, or are you pushing for her to understand you? Where are you
coming from inside yourself? Is there something you fear? Are you
attempting to meet your own need to control, convince, and be right
or are you coming from a place of true desire to know and understand
your daughter? Listen with your heart, and a pure desire to understand.
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Book of
the Month:
This month I am recommending three books by Oriah Mountain Dreamer.
Oriah’s books are soft and poetic but do make a great point!
The Invitation
The Call: Discovering Why You are Here
The Dance
***If anyone is
interested in a monthly book club using only books for propelling
personal growth, please contact me. I’d like to meet once
per month during lunch and use a coach approach as we discuss
the books. We can meet on a telephone bridge line to make it
easy for everyone to attend.
*** I am also available to do team meetings for your group
based around a particular book. Using a coach approach, for book
discussions, more effectively incorporates the material into
the teams learning.
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Services of Designs to Grow:
Create a Team of Leaders!
- Did you know that all skills being equal, the factor that
separates the average employees from the superstars is one’s
level of emotional intelligence? And, that as you move up
in your career path, technical skills become less important
and your ability to connect and effectively communicate become
the determining factor in how far you will go?
- Group IQ is the sum total of the skills and talents of
a group. Everything being the same, the highest performing
teams have social harmony. This is directly related to the
team member’s ability to listen, understand, recognize,
and communicate clearly with each other.
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For more information and testimonials visit www.designstogrow.com.
Here’s what one group member had to say about the training
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"In my five years at this company, this was the best
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to the possibilities that are available to us all and ways
to make those possibilities a reality." M.C., Janssen
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This publication is dedicated
to personal development and its power to expand awareness, enhance
life quality, redefine human potential, and to access unlimited
levels of being which will naturally and effortlessly create health,
wealth, and success. As individuals
awaken, humanity awakens.
For more information on Designs
to Grow: www.designstogrow.com lynn@designstogrow.com 215
504-9188
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